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Post by Ashe on Jan 14, 2022 1:41:11 GMT -6
I talk about it in the Discord, but I feel like I should put something on here, that will remain in view, since the chats scroll.
So far in 2022:
-- my car had a gas leak (fixed, it was much cheaper than I thought)
-- While his car is in the shop, my stepson borrowed Dan's 'everyday' car. While he was driving it one night at 2am, he nearly got run off the road by a semi truck whose driver didn't stop, didn't care, just came into his lane and side swiped the car so bad the drivers side window exploded with enough force to embed glass in his face, the driver door and driver side rear doors were bent and wouldn't open, and the body or the wheel well area bent so the front tire rubbed. Couldn't drive it to a safe place off the highway. I drove an hour north, had to guesstimate his location based on a google map screenshot, and found him to get a tow. (Car has since been scrapped, now we have to buy another one, but thank goodness he's okay)
-- Woman who owns Belle, the horse I've been riding for 6-7 years, has been going through dementia. In November, she drove 4 hours north into Michigan, just got in and drove straight until the car ran out of gas. She forgot how to put gas in, or forgot how to read the gauge. I had to go rescue her. Since then, we've been working with who we thought was a close friend of hers, the barn owner where Belle lives. This woman has been at this barn for 20+ years, reliable and always paid her barn dues early.
In December, she went to pay the barn owner, he said "don't worry about that right now." She took that to mean he would handle that month. January comes around and I enter into a new lease agreement (always verbal with this guy, he likes to do things under the table and back out without a paper trail... Shady, but I love this horse and play along to keep seeing her) and the barn owner tells me I can lease for January "but due to owed barn fees, I had to put a lien on Belle." I asked how much she owed, he said "I can't tell you that information." So I rightfully alerted Belle's owner, and she INSTANTLY wrote a check for two months, which turns out it paid her up. So really she only back-owed December, because this was the first day we'd been out in January. He literally pulled this on her over 1 month's late payment, while he's let other people go 6 months and all he does is whine about it.
However, because I told her, he claims I "caused drama" and he immediately terminated my lease with Belle. End of January, I can no longer ride her and I will be shocked if I'm not banned from the barn (again). Why? Because I alerted a woman he put a lien on her horse.... and he wanted to keep it a secret? He's been trying to find guardians of estate and person, but this woman is still coherent and able bodied. No lawyers, no state involvement, no signatures - but when I asked about "could a guardian of estate.... sell Belle if she felt like it?" he said yes.
So I honestly think he was trying to make her owe so much on Belle that he would "claim" her, or get the guardian to sell her off immediately. I don't know why he wants her, but why else would he be so mad at me for telling her she owed him money? If it's none of my business, why was he so desperate to terminate my lease in Feb that he even told me this information?
This last one has had me truly heartbroken and sick to my stomach the last couple of days. I've been riding at this barn for 9 years and this treatment I've gotten isn't anything new, but with this woman having dementia, I feel like time is ticking. If I'm gone, I can't foresee me coming back this time. According to her, I'm in her will to get Belle - but while she's living, Belle could easily be sold or moved. As he loves reminding me every chance he gets, I don't have a say in anything because she's never been my horse.
So if you notice me being moody or absent or just mindlessly RPing for a distraction... This thread will be why.
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Post by Ashe on May 13, 2022 3:27:14 GMT -6
02/17/2022
I am going to go crazy. And this is probably his goal. The barn owner had terminated my lease starting Feb. I'd even asked "You're threatening my lease because I had Cora pay the money she owed you?" Qnd he said "oh its not threatened. It IS terminated".
So for Jan and feb I've been stressed and depressed. I thought I was gonna get banned period from the barn. He doesn't talk to me in person, he ignores my existence and won't even look at me, he only talks to everyone around me. Even yesterday, he talked over my head to talk to Cora. Not me.
So I messaged him, trying to figure out just what happened and what the game plan was. And he tells me he NEVER TOOK BARN PRIVILEGES AWAY. He says I misunderstood.
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03/05/2022
The barn owner just talked to me today for the first time since Jan 5th. The first time he looked at me instead of past me. And he walked the entire length of the barn to interrupt our convo and stand there making sure we weren't talking about him.
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03/16/2022
Of course Cora, the lady with dementia, loses her keys and locks herself out of the house. Of course she never gave a spare to anyone, of course she never hid a spare in case. Of course every lock Smith in the area is busy. 🙃
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03/16/2022
Lock Smith came. He was a Saint. Popped open the door in seconds. Cora couldn't find her keys in the house. Cora couldn't find money to pay the nice man. I had to pay and have her write me a check cause she can't find anything. At least I have a key to her house now if I need it (smith made copies from the doorhandle!!)but idk what she's gonna do. 🙃☠️ If there is a God please take me out before I get to this level.
03/16/2022
It's just. A lot. I'm at like -50 spoons right now. We've been dealing with this since November and there's no end in sight yet. And it's just getting worse.
03/22/2022
Had a meeting with an attorney about Cora. We have a woman lined up to be guardian of person, and a guy lined up to be guardian of estate. Everything seemed to go smoothly.
Then later in the day, the guardian of person told us the guardian of estate guy wants to do BOTH. Which makes no sense at all. 1) that's too much work for someone also doing attorney stuff. 2) Cora needs care like making sure she showers and washes her clothes.... would be a hell of a lot easier if a WOMAN helped her.
So my friend, guardian of person, and I all think that this guy will swoop in, deem she's unable to live at her home, send her to a Home and sell all her assets. The end.
Belle is an asset. Would not be shocked if this was attempt #2 at the barn owner getting Belle. Her legal guardian? Selling her horse? So he can buy it?
Not to mention the barn owner started off the convo telling Cora "did you know over the past 3-4 years, I've had 20 people try to buy your horse"
And Cora swore up and down to me I was in her will for Belle. Then she tells everyone today she hasn't made a will since the 70s. 🤦♀️
03/22/2022
I can do the ranting but I haven't been able to fully relax since November when this started. Was really hoping today would end the struggle. We were so close to having the perfect help. The woman is fantastic. We're gonna fight to keep her, she wants what's best for Cora too
I dunno what I'm gonna do if Cora ends up in a home and Belle gets taken away.
03/24/2022
Took my car in for a thermostat. Got it back and the check engine light is on. 🙃 Shops closed.
My yard is flooded and I still don't know about that hole and it looks like mole holes are collapsing under my deck.
I just want something to go right. ☠️
03/28/2022
My (not the newer car) car was smoking when I got home this morning 🙃 the smoke smells terrible - not an oil smell, not a rubber smell, so I suspect coolant leak... I notice it when my car gets up to temperature, and generally I've had the heater on... I'll have to see if it's heater related or general running engine related
04/08/2022
Cora has definitely reached the point where she needs a home. The girl who's been cleaning her house has found so much biohazard waste... there's something oozing from a terrible smelling fridge downstairs. Cats peed and pooped all over the house before they died (we aren't sure if the bodies are in the house somewhere...Cora never even told us they died until december, they were only 4-6 range...) not including the fact Cora soaks her bed every night, and every day the cleaning girls have to clean poop off the WALLS. 🙃
Two of the helpers got very sick just being in the house to clean.
How coras sat in her own urine for a year plus and not gotten a uti or respiratory issues is beyond me.
It's so much worse than I thought....
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04/20/2022
My boss bows to bullies. She doesnt want to deal with it. She is the only one with the power to, and she won't. But she WILL follow me and a coworker INTO THE BATHROOM to scold us for using the restroom after break. Uh, when you drink a can of pop on break, often bladders need emptied. But yes, let's allow the bullies to do what they want and we'll do their jobs.
(When I say bullies I mean these people corner us, cuss us out, threaten us like "just wait till we're off postal property", Sit there glaring at us for hours, record us talking to each other, etc. I've gotten into screaming matches with them and now I pretend they don't exist because it drives them crazy. These are women in their 50s!)
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04/21/2022
Got to have a surprise meeting with the boss, the union rep, and the two bullies today. 🙃 I wish I had recorded it for yall but I was blindsided and didn't think to. Thought I was going to be in trouble for a convo I had with my boss yesterday... nope, we all sat in a room together to hash it out. Union rep and boss are pretty much on my side tho.
On top of 3 hours of sleep cause I went to the barn Wednesday morning.
And I have a vet appointment for Belle (whole barn vaccinations) in 5 hours, so I won't sleep again until hopefully noon?
If yall don't see me around this weekend I am sleeping.
04/23/2022
I can't manage to have a single week without something. 🙃 Had to call the E vet for Belle cause she was having an asthma attack. Because it's 80 and the workers don't clean her stall properly and I haven't been able to convince Jim that that's why she can't breathe. This will be the third year of struggle, but the first where she was this bad...
04/30/2022
I dont get sick often but I must have eaten something bad Thursday night. I spent the ENTIRE day Friday trying to make myself puke, and hoping it would just pass the other end. I literally took a shower. Wrapped my hair up, and laid on the bed listening to achievement hunter play minecraft for HOURS just not moving.
I ended up eating a bagel and some water at 2am Saturday morning. That's all I've had. And my stomach isn't sure it even wants that.
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05/02/2022
Yall I just. I dont know what I did to offend the higher powers but. I hit something in the road, Idk what it was, the car ahead of me blocked my view until I was already on it. Like a rock or something. I thought for sure I'd have a flat tire. Nope! Took out my power steering. Fluid everywhere, groaning noise, hard to turn. Because I don't have enough problems in life, let's take out my car too.
Oh, I guess at least I'm not sick anymore. That lasted almost exactly 24 hours. A couple of my friends had 24 hour bugs this week too.
Physically I'm fine I made it home but this is just a load of shit I gotta deal with on top of the other loads of shit that have just been piling up the entirety of 2022 and I can't deal with any of these problems because another one arises
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05/05/2022
At the barn, the workers don't clean the stalls properly. Thick 6 inch or more layer of pee soaked bedding packed down... they just throw fresh shavings on top. Belles started to develop breathing struggles over these past few years because of it. I've had the barn owner out a couple times to see her breathing, which he has conveniently forgotten ever happened and now thinks its a sudden allergy, and eventually cumulated into her emergency vet call for (basically) an asthma attack.
Barn owner says "if it was the stalls, then all the horses would have troubles"
3 have a urine scalding/reaction where they've lost hair or developed scabbing. And the barn owners own horse has had $10,000 worth of diagnostic treatment to figure out what his BREATHING ISSUES are and how to fix them. He uses a nebulizer.
So recently Belle has lost some weight and gotten ribby. Barn owner blames parasites - refuses to think anything else, wants me to spend close to 100 on dewormer programs. So I instead did a $15 fecal at the vet and she's NEGATIVE. The vet said the weight loss is DUE TO HER HEAVES. Which she has BECAUSE THE STALL WONT GET CLEAN.
On the plus side, when I talked to the barn owner about her losing weight, he did up her feed and I do see an improvement in her weight already. He just won't treat the cause..
Yesterday at 3:14 PM
I am stuck dealing with pure evil. The guy trying to take Belle is going to sell Cora's car out from under her. Old woman? Dementia? Perfect candidate to confiscate her car and get it sold. He refused to give the girl taking care of Cora the keys - the cars been on his property since she drove it 4 hours into Michigan, he wouldn't let anyone move it. Coras wanted it sitting in her driveway even if she's not allowed the keys, so it looks like someone's home, for months... he's refused to move it and now he's selling it. If he can do that what's gonna stop him from getting Belle? 😤
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Post by Ashe on May 13, 2022 3:30:56 GMT -6
I feel bad for not doing my staff duties on a regular basis, and I feel like I have to explain? I'm really struggling right now, at best my mind is a haze and at worst I'm paralyzed or nauseous with anxiety. My coping habits are reading actual books and spending time outside annnnnd oversharing on here. I'll be fine, it's been a rough year and there will be an end, but this transition period is butts. I decided to keep my "rant" posts here as a progression, ignore them if you'd rather, but things just keep piling up...
Currently weighing on me is:
-- The mystery hole. We decided that the problem is the hole is at the lowest part of our yard so the water moving is the harmful part. The fix is redirecting the flood waters (our woods floods, feeds into the neighbor's flooded yard, then all that water speeds into our yard). We dug a trench one rainy morning, that crosses my whole yard to this drain we think leads to the front sewer. We're gonna get loads of dirt brought in and work on elevating low spots and making a "swale" that leads to the front. We've drained a significant portion, and the months of solid rain seem to be over, so this is improving.
-- The ongoing Cora saga. Lately, we have found out the bad lawyer we don't want, paid to go forward with the guardianship out of his own pocket after she cancelled the check she was coerced into writing for him. He's fighting hard to get control of her, and the whole situation is sus. Barn owner confiscated her car in November, would not let anyone return it to her house even if the keys were withheld so she couldn't drive off. Now, he's selling it illegally. He's been extremely rude and hard on so many people at the barn, the place I once viewed as a safe haven with my favorite animals in the world now has "enemy battle music" playing whenever I'm there. If he does talk to me, it's to belittle me.
Belle had a breathing issue Wednesday, I actually asked for his help. I was gonna give her Dex that the vet gave me, and he said no don't do that that's a bad idea.
"Okay, what do you suggest?"
"I can't say since I haven't seen her"
"I can go get her and bring her to you so you can see?"
"I ain't no vet!"
Constant back and forth. He went as far as to say "I can't seem to figure out any pattern here, she only has breathing problems when you're here." Uh, maybe because no one else happens to notice? "I have EXCELLENT staff that notice the tiniest of scabs!" Do ya now, none of them can muck a stall. .-. The barn manager just quit because the barn owner even told her off for not doing stalls properly. Meanwhile, when I worked there, if I missed a single wet spot (including a horse splashing in his water bucket) he would dig it out publicly for everyone to see to embarrass and shame me. But go on.
Belle's vet is a woman. So naturally barn owner doesn't trust her or believe she's capable. He doesn't believe Belle's negative fecal, thinks her weight loss is still due to something else despite the vet saying Heaves is causing it, thinks she's sick and her coat is dull due to my bad grooming, and "wow she's still shedding, that's not good" but so are all the other horses...
-- Work. I work a lot of hours and while I need and enjoy the money, and the work isn't hard, it just leaves very little time to do things outside of work. Not to mention the bullies that occasionally get riled up. I'm just sick of 50+ year old people being complete asshats. And then there's the people that call off. Constantly. How do people pay bills? Because of that, I have to cover their jobs too. And two of these people were great friends of mine and I just feel like they're gonna end up quitting and I won't see them again so i'm sad.
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